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Getting Ahead: Don’t Forget to Feed Your Spirit

As Blake Shelton from the popular show “The Voice” might say, “What kind of bull crap is this?” To the contrary, Blake definitely knows what I’m referring to because it’s clear that one of the ways Blake feeds his spirit is through country music.

In today’s never-ending world of staying on top of your game, it has become increasingly difficult to stay supercharged. Whether you are an entrepreneur, a college student, or someone who is looking to make career changes, empowerment can come in different forms, including feeding your spirit.

One of the things I have observed with people who are trying to make changes in their lives is that their level of unhappiness continues to get progressively worse. It’s not just their job that is making them anxious, depressed, or downright miserable. I am finding that 9 times out of 10, these same people rarely, if ever, make quality time for themselves. In fact, people go for weeks, months, or years without feeding their spirit.

Research shows that 75 percent of the gainfully employed would rather take a raise than have more time off. In other words, people are NOT taking time for themselves. They are not engaging in doing things that nourish their being or feed their spirit.

Let me provide a little more clarification about what feeding your spirit looks like.

Feeding your spirit simply means enjoying yourself and doing things that bring you happiness. It’s about opening your heart and finding ways to bring a smile to your face. It’s about making time for fun and laughter.

Feeding your spirit reminds you of who you are (or who you used to be). Remember those days when you used to laugh hysterically with your friends or family? Remember how damn good it felt? Filling your spirit with nature and meditation could also make you go inward, resulting in feelings of gratitude and intense pleasure.

You see, when we spend more time working our tails off and thinking about everything outside ourselves, we lose ourselves. We forget about us. Ultimately, we end up starving our spirit. Who’s kidding whom? You know whether you’re starving your spirit or not. It’s easy to figure out. Are you creating any free periods to have fun? If not, you might want to look at ways to incorporate time into your schedule to connect you to your heart, in turn lifting you and your vibrational levels up.

Just last night, I saw a wonderful picture of a friend on Facebook who had a brain hemorrhage one year ago. She posted these words, “With my salsa teacher and salsa friends who gave me back my joy and love of dance. Dance keeps me young and alive!”

This morning my client, who is a crackerjack of an attorney but bored out of her mind, proclaimed that she would return to her yoga practice. After attending a class last week, she realized how grounded and clear she became after taking time to fill her spirit. She feels infinitely more empowered by allowing herself “feel good” time.

Another client sent me a text message a few months ago telling me he was in NYC for the weekend. This was his way of “filling up his spirit.” He adores big cities and had been down and out for more than three years after his layoff and, yes, he agreed, he had done nothing to replenish his spirit since the layoff.

This past summer another client called me from a Phillies game. Even though he adored baseball, he hadn’t been to a game in two years. This man sounded so revived and energized as a result of making this incremental change. I was truly happy for him.

Listening to music, singing out loud, driving with the convertible top down, breathing in fresh air, going on nature walks, sky gazing, visiting the beach, the mountains or a lake, turning off your cell phone, being quiet for two minutes, getting a massage, playing with your pets, cooking a nourishing meal for your family, and entertaining your friends are all great examples of ways to feed your spirit.

However, feeding your spirit is remarkably different and unique for each person. The question you need to ask yourself is what helps to open your heart? What is the one thing you could do for yourself this week that would make you feel more cheerful and connected? The other question you need to ask yourself is what is this going to cost me if I don’t take the time? You and I both know there’s always a cost.

I would like to suggest that you consider being kinder to yourself as a possible way of staying supercharged as you drive towards your goals of getting your business off the ground or starting a new chapter in your life.

Think of yourself as if you are a garden. Nurture yourself just like that garden. You deserve it. Your spirit craves it. And, there’s no question that you most definitely are worth it.

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3 Considerations that May Trump Your Career Transition

There are many people that want to cross this bridge to the other side, however, career changes cannot be made in isolation. In fact, when we make a change, we need to consider the context of our personal life and overall life goals.

One of the considerations in making a career transition is to take a close look at the practicality of making the move. Three top practical matters to consider are:

  • Lack of up-to-date skills 
  • Recent poor performance appraisals or recently being fired due to performance issues (are you willing to move on?)
  • Mindset (can you come to terms with your divorce, a spouse that passed away, your age or an illness?)

Two factors that also need to be considered when looking into a career change are your resources (support people, available money, physical space, networking groups, your personal agility and ability to learn) and limitations (family, lifestyle and financial obligations, work hours, travel requirements, disability and health issues).

An absolute requisite for reaching new career goals is to stop and reflect on your most important values, in addition to, the practical considerations, resources and limitations in your life before you make a decision.  As Meryl Streep once said, “We are the choices we make.”

Feeling good about your work is central to life, but overlooking the details could lead to even more heartache. A successful career shift requires careful thought, due diligence and thorough research and reflection. Applying these core principles and practical considerations will help to ensure that you can reach your goals, as you set on a new course of action, to shift your career. 

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Surviving An Uncivilized Workplace-What About the No A–Hole Rule?

There are horrid abuse stories out in the workplace. Many of these stories have to do with people that annoy us, bosses that are mean-spirited and people that show up psychologically hostile. So, wouldn’t it be awesome if every organization employed the No A-hole rule?

Recently while preparing for a university lecture about organizational empowerment and how to build a more civilized workplace, this rule popped up. It wasn’t the first time, I had heard of this rule. It made me think of a book about office politics entitled “Work Would Be Great If It Weren’t for the People.”

But, let’s not digress. This No A–Hole Rule is designed to “offset the harm caused by mean-spirited and abusive people.”  In fact, if you really think about it, the  actions of these (BLANKETY BLANKS) are so detrimental to the success of an organization. One friend of mine even coined the phrase, “One bad hire can collapse an empire.”

I am curious about how you or your company handles these folks. One thing is for sure . . . everyone (including management) needs to step up to the plate and support the goal of eliminating unacceptable behavior. I would certainly love to hear you weigh in on this one.

By the way, if this stirs you up and you are one of those victims, check out Bob Sutton’s blog on the Latest Tips for Surviving Workplace A-Hs. I think you will love that read…For me, I have and would — employ the all time classic — of escaping ASAP.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Secret & Generation Y

This past Sunday, I felt overwhelmed by such happiness while sitting at 45th and Spruce Street in Philadelphia. I happen to be eating brunch at Rx The Farmacy, an organic, farm to table, comfort-food bistro which has been jammed packed with customers since their opening day. I also happen to know both owners, and I can tell you that the passion and energy behind this restaurant is so exciting, it just fires me up.

You see, one of the owner’s of Rx The Farmacy is a childhood friend of my family. In fact, my daughter was one of her besties. Over the years, we spent countless hours in my kitchen cooking and eating together, sharing recipes and talking about her future. Not only did she demonstrate a true love for learning about cooking, she attended the Walnut Hill College here in Philadelphia to work on making the dream a reality. It is there that she teamed up with Ross Scofield, her business partner. 

If you ask Danielle what she would credit her newfound success to, she would probably tell you about meeting Ross and about a movie called The Secret.  What you say??? Aaah…yes, there are so many critics of The Secret, but you won’t find any tolerance for that here.

To make a long story short. . . I wish you could have heard the voice mail message she left on my phone three months ago. She credited her “dream come true” to watching the Secret over 5 years ago. In fact, one day (back in April of 2013) she introduced the film to Ross, her business partner. They watched this film 5 times in one week.

Then they went for it. They applied The Secret to their dream by utilizing the formula:

  • Have gratitude for what you already have.
  • Use visualization for what you want.
  • Then, move into a state of abundance. Feel what it would be like– to already achieve that dream.

As the story goes, she visited her old neighborhood in the Penn area within one week of applying the concepts and, as they rode down the street gazing about the neighborhood, what appeared next was absolutely stunning. Low and behold was a vacant building with a sign that said FOR RENT.  Instantly, they knew that the universe was moving in their direction. 

The rest is not a secret but a testament to the faith and belief of a young woman’s dream. At the age of 22, Danielle is wise beyond her years because she literally changed her approach by applying some really important concepts (The Secret). Then, bam. She  got what she wanted. 

Like I said, I am fired up because I love when people (especially young people) begin to empower themselves. If you get a chance, please visit Danielle and Ross’s facebook page to support this young couple living their dream as new and exciting restauranteurs in the City of Brotherly Love.  In the meantime, Rock on Generation Y!

If you have secrets to share about your success, we would love to hear from you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Image and Your Job Search

You’ve heard that it takes less than 10 seconds for a recruiter to decide if they want to continue reading further. If you think that’s a ridiculous amount of time to review a resume,  think about how quickly your image can communicate a message.  The truth of the matter is that your professional image is the single, most important non-verbal communication there is.

Here are two quick tips for managing your professional image:

HAIR:  Both women and men almost always have their hair professionally colored and cut. When I saw one of my favorite male boomer clients walk in one day looking 10 years younger, I gasped. I knew something was different. It turns out that his wife made the suggestion for him to color his hair because he was in competition against the GenX and Yers. Let me tell you . . . he looked AMAZING!  By the way, he landed a new job within 30 days. We both knew that coloring  his hair, in addition to investing in overhauling his resume, didn’t hurt. 

WARDROBE:  Just like a resume can look like it was written in the 80s, you can easily look like you are still in the 80s with your wardrobe.  This is an easy fix.  If you really have trouble picking out clothing, call your local personal shopper at Macy’s and they will have you squared away in a nano second. These personal shoppers will email you coupons, special sales and can help you create a new professional look. And, guess what, there’s no cost!

SELF-TALK, VISUALIZATION AND ATTITUDE:  You can certainly change your professional image, but when it comes to winning out in this job market . . . there are other critical elements that are part of that success equation.

Check out this utube of Michael Jordan. I think you will agree that plugging away eventually gives way to winning.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc&feature=player_embedded